Comments on: Twilight Saga: It Won’t Ruin Girls’ Lives, But I Sure Take Issue With It http://www.kimwerker.com/2008/09/02/twilight-saga-it-wont-ruin-girls-lives-but-i-sure-take-issue-with-it/ Nothing is too precious to try at least once. Tue, 16 Mar 2010 17:40:52 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Kim Werker http://www.kimwerker.com/2008/09/02/twilight-saga-it-wont-ruin-girls-lives-but-i-sure-take-issue-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5623 Kim Werker Tue, 08 Dec 2009 08:21:40 +0000 http://www.kimwerker.com/?p=261#comment-5623 I love learning about which aspects of these books most upset people. I'm<br>certainly bothered by perfect-body crap, and I'm very sensitive to the<br>issues teens (and adults) struggle with when it comes to body image. But it<br>flew under my radar when reading these books.<br><br>Don't get me wrong, I totally see it now that you mention it. I suppose I<br>was too distracted by the multitude of other things that angered me as I<br>read. I love learning about which aspects of these books most upset people. I'm
certainly bothered by perfect-body crap, and I'm very sensitive to the
issues teens (and adults) struggle with when it comes to body image. But it
flew under my radar when reading these books.

Don't get me wrong, I totally see it now that you mention it. I suppose I
was too distracted by the multitude of other things that angered me as I
read.

]]> By: Kim Werker http://www.kimwerker.com/2008/09/02/twilight-saga-it-wont-ruin-girls-lives-but-i-sure-take-issue-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5625 Kim Werker Tue, 08 Dec 2009 08:18:55 +0000 http://www.kimwerker.com/?p=261#comment-5625 I agree with you about the sexuality in the book. I don't at all think this<br>book portrayed a teen boy pressuring a teen girl to have sex; indeed, the<br>openness with which Bella and Edward talk about sex, and during which she<br>indicates her desire to have sex with him, is totally refreshing in a YA<br>book.<br><br>It's all the other stuff that made me nuts. I agree with you about the sexuality in the book. I don't at all think this
book portrayed a teen boy pressuring a teen girl to have sex; indeed, the
openness with which Bella and Edward talk about sex, and during which she
indicates her desire to have sex with him, is totally refreshing in a YA
book.

It's all the other stuff that made me nuts.

]]> By: Sterling http://www.kimwerker.com/2008/09/02/twilight-saga-it-wont-ruin-girls-lives-but-i-sure-take-issue-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5624 Sterling Tue, 08 Dec 2009 07:42:15 +0000 http://www.kimwerker.com/?p=261#comment-5624 Alright, I read half of these reviews before getting big time pissed off. People that believe that teenage boys are FORCING and PRESSURING girls into sexuality or that only see girls as sexual objects, or that believe that girls are perfect and innocent little creatures to be led astray by boys are IDIOTS. I'm sorry, but I've been there, and I have NEVER met a guy that puts himself before his partner - even when the partner is simply sexual. Society is perpetuating the "morality" myth that places value on women's virginity and purity and makes men out to be chauvanistic pigs. So yes, cheers to Meyer for making Bella the one that wanted to get Edward into bed.<br>That said, there were some serious other issues. Not that it's bad in any way for someone to desire motherhood, but the focus on it irritates me. As a young woman, my decision to have permanent surgical birth control was met with widespread horror amongst women that simply couldn't understand not wanting children. And to the reviewer that implied motherhood is the same as femininity, please take note of the fact that my bedroom is a "french boudoir" and I spend most of my time at home in silky pyjamas and pom-pom mules. I do not have to give up my feminism to be feminine, I do not have give birth to be feminine, and I do *NOT* have to have children, a spouse, or my virginity to have value.<br>My apologies, that did turn into a feminist rant. Meyer should've stopped at Twilight, in my opinion, and the movie franchise didn't help the reputation. Alright, I read half of these reviews before getting big time pissed off. People that believe that teenage boys are FORCING and PRESSURING girls into sexuality or that only see girls as sexual objects, or that believe that girls are perfect and innocent little creatures to be led astray by boys are IDIOTS. I'm sorry, but I've been there, and I have NEVER met a guy that puts himself before his partner – even when the partner is simply sexual. Society is perpetuating the “morality” myth that places value on women's virginity and purity and makes men out to be chauvanistic pigs. So yes, cheers to Meyer for making Bella the one that wanted to get Edward into bed.
That said, there were some serious other issues. Not that it's bad in any way for someone to desire motherhood, but the focus on it irritates me. As a young woman, my decision to have permanent surgical birth control was met with widespread horror amongst women that simply couldn't understand not wanting children. And to the reviewer that implied motherhood is the same as femininity, please take note of the fact that my bedroom is a “french boudoir” and I spend most of my time at home in silky pyjamas and pom-pom mules. I do not have to give up my feminism to be feminine, I do not have give birth to be feminine, and I do *NOT* have to have children, a spouse, or my virginity to have value.
My apologies, that did turn into a feminist rant. Meyer should've stopped at Twilight, in my opinion, and the movie franchise didn't help the reputation.

]]> By: Kim Werker http://www.kimwerker.com/2008/09/02/twilight-saga-it-wont-ruin-girls-lives-but-i-sure-take-issue-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5560 Kim Werker Tue, 08 Dec 2009 00:21:40 +0000 http://www.kimwerker.com/?p=261#comment-5560 I love learning about which aspects of these books most upset people. I'm<br>certainly bothered by perfect-body crap, and I'm very sensitive to the<br>issues teens (and adults) struggle with when it comes to body image. But it<br>flew under my radar when reading these books.<br><br>Don't get me wrong, I totally see it now that you mention it. I suppose I<br>was too distracted by the multitude of other things that angered me as I<br>read. I love learning about which aspects of these books most upset people. I'm
certainly bothered by perfect-body crap, and I'm very sensitive to the
issues teens (and adults) struggle with when it comes to body image. But it
flew under my radar when reading these books.

Don't get me wrong, I totally see it now that you mention it. I suppose I
was too distracted by the multitude of other things that angered me as I
read.

]]> By: Kim Werker http://www.kimwerker.com/2008/09/02/twilight-saga-it-wont-ruin-girls-lives-but-i-sure-take-issue-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5559 Kim Werker Tue, 08 Dec 2009 00:18:55 +0000 http://www.kimwerker.com/?p=261#comment-5559 I agree with you about the sexuality in the book. I don't at all think this<br>book portrayed a teen boy pressuring a teen girl to have sex; indeed, the<br>openness with which Bella and Edward talk about sex, and during which she<br>indicates her desire to have sex with him, is totally refreshing in a YA<br>book.<br><br>It's all the other stuff that made me nuts. I agree with you about the sexuality in the book. I don't at all think this
book portrayed a teen boy pressuring a teen girl to have sex; indeed, the
openness with which Bella and Edward talk about sex, and during which she
indicates her desire to have sex with him, is totally refreshing in a YA
book.

It's all the other stuff that made me nuts.

]]> By: Sterling http://www.kimwerker.com/2008/09/02/twilight-saga-it-wont-ruin-girls-lives-but-i-sure-take-issue-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5558 Sterling Mon, 07 Dec 2009 23:42:15 +0000 http://www.kimwerker.com/?p=261#comment-5558 Alright, I read half of these reviews before getting big time pissed off. People that believe that teenage boys are FORCING and PRESSURING girls into sexuality or that only see girls as sexual objects, or that believe that girls are perfect and innocent little creatures to be led astray by boys are IDIOTS. I'm sorry, but I've been there, and I have NEVER met a guy that puts himself before his partner - even when the partner is simply sexual. Society is perpetuating the "morality" myth that places value on women's virginity and purity and makes men out to be chauvanistic pigs. So yes, cheers to Meyer for making Bella the one that wanted to get Edward into bed.<br>That said, there were some serious other issues. Not that it's bad in any way for someone to desire motherhood, but the focus on it irritates me. As a young woman, my decision to have permanent surgical birth control was met with widespread horror amongst women that simply couldn't understand not wanting children. And to the reviewer that implied motherhood is the same as femininity, please take note of the fact that my bedroom is a "french boudoir" and I spend most of my time at home in silky pyjamas and pom-pom mules. I do not have to give up my feminism to be feminine, I do not have give birth to be feminine, and I do *NOT* have to have children, a spouse, or my virginity to have value.<br>My apologies, that did turn into a feminist rant. Meyer should've stopped at Twilight, in my opinion, and the movie franchise didn't help the reputation. Alright, I read half of these reviews before getting big time pissed off. People that believe that teenage boys are FORCING and PRESSURING girls into sexuality or that only see girls as sexual objects, or that believe that girls are perfect and innocent little creatures to be led astray by boys are IDIOTS. I'm sorry, but I've been there, and I have NEVER met a guy that puts himself before his partner – even when the partner is simply sexual. Society is perpetuating the “morality” myth that places value on women's virginity and purity and makes men out to be chauvanistic pigs. So yes, cheers to Meyer for making Bella the one that wanted to get Edward into bed.
That said, there were some serious other issues. Not that it's bad in any way for someone to desire motherhood, but the focus on it irritates me. As a young woman, my decision to have permanent surgical birth control was met with widespread horror amongst women that simply couldn't understand not wanting children. And to the reviewer that implied motherhood is the same as femininity, please take note of the fact that my bedroom is a “french boudoir” and I spend most of my time at home in silky pyjamas and pom-pom mules. I do not have to give up my feminism to be feminine, I do not have give birth to be feminine, and I do *NOT* have to have children, a spouse, or my virginity to have value.
My apologies, that did turn into a feminist rant. Meyer should've stopped at Twilight, in my opinion, and the movie franchise didn't help the reputation.

]]> By: Mechelle Fogelsong http://www.kimwerker.com/2008/09/02/twilight-saga-it-wont-ruin-girls-lives-but-i-sure-take-issue-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5512 Mechelle Fogelsong Tue, 10 Nov 2009 01:04:23 +0000 http://www.kimwerker.com/?p=261#comment-5512 What bothered me most about the series was the whole perfect-body-for-eternity thing. Doesn't that bother you? When teenage girls whose bodies are nearly perfect anyway are asking their parents for a boob job as a graduation present, the last thing we need are YA authors who promote this way of thinking. <br><br>We learn through literature. Young impressional minds learn through vampire sagas, I guess.<br><br>That's why I felt deeply disappointed when Meyer made Bella into a vampire. I realize, it was the only outcome that offered a happy ending, as far as her invented world is concerned; however, it sends the message that the truly beautiful are young-looking forever. And that's just not REAL. I mean, why is it so bad to grow old? To let one's body (and one's looks) take the natural course that god/nature intended? What ever happened to the days when grey hair had a beauty of its own, since grey hair = wisdom?<br><br>I'd much rather befriend Grandma Mazur (Janet Evanovich) than Alice Cullen, whether she wants to suck my blood or not. I mean honestly. A closet full of fancy clothes from France? Get real. Take me to WalMart with Grandma Mazur, and I'm good. What bothered me most about the series was the whole perfect-body-for-eternity thing. Doesn't that bother you? When teenage girls whose bodies are nearly perfect anyway are asking their parents for a boob job as a graduation present, the last thing we need are YA authors who promote this way of thinking.

We learn through literature. Young impressional minds learn through vampire sagas, I guess.

That's why I felt deeply disappointed when Meyer made Bella into a vampire. I realize, it was the only outcome that offered a happy ending, as far as her invented world is concerned; however, it sends the message that the truly beautiful are young-looking forever. And that's just not REAL. I mean, why is it so bad to grow old? To let one's body (and one's looks) take the natural course that god/nature intended? What ever happened to the days when grey hair had a beauty of its own, since grey hair = wisdom?

I'd much rather befriend Grandma Mazur (Janet Evanovich) than Alice Cullen, whether she wants to suck my blood or not. I mean honestly. A closet full of fancy clothes from France? Get real. Take me to WalMart with Grandma Mazur, and I'm good.

]]> By: Mechelle Fogelsong http://www.kimwerker.com/2008/09/02/twilight-saga-it-wont-ruin-girls-lives-but-i-sure-take-issue-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5499 Mechelle Fogelsong Tue, 10 Nov 2009 00:04:23 +0000 http://www.kimwerker.com/?p=261#comment-5499 What bothered me most about the series was the whole perfect-body-for-eternity thing. Doesn't that bother you? When teenage girls whose bodies are nearly perfect anyway are asking their parents for a boob job as a graduation present, the last thing we need are YA authors who promote this way of thinking. <br><br>We learn through literature. Young impressional minds learn through vampire sagas, I guess.<br><br>That's why I felt deeply disappointed when Meyer made Bella into a vampire. I realize, it was the only outcome that offered a happy ending, as far as her invented world is concerned; however, it sends the message that the truly beautiful are young-looking forever. And that's just not REAL. I mean, why is it so bad to grow old? To let one's body (and one's looks) take the natural course that god/nature intended? What ever happened to the days when grey hair had a beauty of its own, since grey hair = wisdom?<br><br>I'd much rather befriend Grandma Mazur (Janet Evanovich) than Alice Cullen, whether she wants to suck my blood or not. I mean honestly. A closet full of fancy clothes from France? Get real. Take me to WalMart with Grandma Mazur, and I'm good. What bothered me most about the series was the whole perfect-body-for-eternity thing. Doesn't that bother you? When teenage girls whose bodies are nearly perfect anyway are asking their parents for a boob job as a graduation present, the last thing we need are YA authors who promote this way of thinking.

We learn through literature. Young impressional minds learn through vampire sagas, I guess.

That's why I felt deeply disappointed when Meyer made Bella into a vampire. I realize, it was the only outcome that offered a happy ending, as far as her invented world is concerned; however, it sends the message that the truly beautiful are young-looking forever. And that's just not REAL. I mean, why is it so bad to grow old? To let one's body (and one's looks) take the natural course that god/nature intended? What ever happened to the days when grey hair had a beauty of its own, since grey hair = wisdom?

I'd much rather befriend Grandma Mazur (Janet Evanovich) than Alice Cullen, whether she wants to suck my blood or not. I mean honestly. A closet full of fancy clothes from France? Get real. Take me to WalMart with Grandma Mazur, and I'm good.

]]> By: April http://www.kimwerker.com/2008/09/02/twilight-saga-it-wont-ruin-girls-lives-but-i-sure-take-issue-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5445 April Tue, 29 Sep 2009 15:01:42 +0000 http://www.kimwerker.com/?p=261#comment-5445 What the hell does acting "feminine instead of all macho" mean? What the hell does acting “feminine instead of all macho” mean?

]]> By: Jessica http://www.kimwerker.com/2008/09/02/twilight-saga-it-wont-ruin-girls-lives-but-i-sure-take-issue-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5440 Jessica Wed, 23 Sep 2009 20:20:56 +0000 http://www.kimwerker.com/?p=261#comment-5440 It really pisses you off that girls may be influenced to act feminine instead of all macho and place more value in kids and their family for a change, doesn't it? ROFL. It really pisses you off that girls may be influenced to act feminine instead of all macho and place more value in kids and their family for a change, doesn't it? ROFL.

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